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Offline Margrit

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Hi everyone
« on: May 03, 2020, 02:28:00 AM »
Hi everyone :)

I am a Trans Woman, living in Switzerland, and travelling to the U.S. a lot and so I came up with the idea of joining this community.

Best wishes
Margrit
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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2020, 10:05:58 AM »
*What* is a "Trans Woman"?

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« Reply #2 on: May 03, 2020, 10:50:09 AM »
*What* is a "Trans Woman"?
It's a common way of identifying that more recent generations use. Trans indicates they are transgender or uncomfortable with their birth gender. Woman is how they identify and their end goal. Some use it after they have completed their transition to indicate their path in life.

Transsexual was common when I transitioned though the term transgender was known. After we completed our transition, we would use transsexual in the past tense to indicate our path in life.

When I reentered the community after being absent from it for over 30 years, I found a number of things had changed and there was a new language to learn. Clocking meant being read, transgender was common and transsexual was rarely use and terms like GG for genetic girl had been replaced with CIS woman.

It made me feel a little like Rip Van Winkle waking up after a long sleep to discover the world had gone through many changes. What really drove the point home was when I first started giving advice, I explained that there would be 6 days of bed rest after surgery. Everybody responded that it would only be two days. Somewhere in my absence, the doctors decided it was better to get you back on your feet as soon as possible so 4 days of bed rest vanished. From that point on, I was more careful about things I hadn't verified and I updated myself on current treatment standards.
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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #3 on: May 03, 2020, 10:58:38 AM »
Thank you Dena. My question was directed at Magrit. I was hoping to get perspective from that POV.
Please forgive me for not being more specific.

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« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2020, 11:05:15 AM »
From Dena: "Trans indicates they are transgender or uncomfortable with their birth gender. Woman is how they identify and their end goal."
This is a HUGE assumption on your part and imho, a presumptuous over-generalization.

"After we completed our transition, we would use transsexual in the past tense to indicate our path in life."
Again...who is "we"?

I do agree that things have changed A LOT. I do not agree that the majority of those changes are for the better.

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« Reply #5 on: May 03, 2020, 11:27:07 AM »
"After we completed our transition, we would use transsexual in the past tense to indicate our path in life."
Again...who is "we"?
Transsexual indicates a desire to transition. If treatment was successful, that desire no longer exist so in the case of MTF, that leave us as a woman or female. I use transsexual in the past tense only when talking with doctors or somebody in the community. Outside of that there isn't need to mention my past so I don't.

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I do agree that things have changed A LOT. I do not agree that the majority of those changes are for the better.
Somethings are better and some are worst. The best advice I can give about that is contain in the Serenity Prayer by Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference
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« Reply #6 on: May 03, 2020, 11:29:04 AM »
Well said, Dena. Thank you.

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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #7 on: May 03, 2020, 11:41:23 AM »
Hi everyone :)

I am a Trans Woman, living in Switzerland, and travelling to the U.S. a lot and so I came up with the idea of joining this community.

Best wishes
Margrit

Hi Margrit,                             03 May 2020

Thank you for being here and welcome to Your site. Yes, this is your site and everyone else's that is a member and is thinking of becoming one. We hope you will feel comfortable and safe here.

By the way, I am also a Trans Woman who readily introduces myself as such and also very proud of being Trans and being a part of our community. Thank you for you also being part of it.

Welcome to the US, we are Happy you visit our country often.

If you need anything, Dena and I are here to help you. Dena is the expert and I am Her assistant. We don't have a bunch of complex rules, we just want everyone to be comfortable and safe here, enjoy themselves, make new friends and find some familiar ones too.

If there is anything we can help you with, please feel free to post, PM, or email us.

Thank you for joining Your site.

Best Always, Love

Dena and Christine

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Offline Margrit

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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #8 on: May 05, 2020, 06:34:18 AM »
Thank you Dena. My question was directed at Magrit. I was hoping to get perspective from that POV.
Please forgive me for not being more specific.

Thank you Dena, I am agree.  :D

Well Complete, I used the word "trans" in my introduction for to show I am not a cis Woman.

Thank you all for to welcome me   :D
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« Reply #9 on: May 05, 2020, 09:41:54 AM »
Hmmm....Thank you, l guess, for an oversimplified NON- answer to my question. I will simply assume, (a huge risk), that you subscribe to all the happpy conventional "wisdom", noted above.

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« Reply #10 on: May 05, 2020, 10:46:53 AM »
Thank you Dena, I am agree.  :D

Well Complete, I used the word "trans" in my introduction for to show I am not a cis Woman.

Thank you all for to welcome me   :D

Ok Copmplete, here again, just I you have not get my CLEARLY answer.
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« Reply #11 on: May 05, 2020, 12:12:10 PM »
I do understand. You are more than welcome to identify however you wish and l am happy to accept you as a transwoman, even if l am unclear what that means.

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« Reply #12 on: May 06, 2020, 12:36:39 AM »
Complete, that is great, thank you.

By the way, I was not able to find your „introduction“.
What happened to it? Disappeared? Newer had one?
I think it musst be interesting to read your Introduction.
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« Reply #13 on: May 06, 2020, 08:50:23 AM »
I have been meaning to get around to it. You can mention my name and in sure you'll get plenty of negative responses. I am not the friendliest of people. Not much tolerance for dogmatic group think.

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« Reply #14 on: May 07, 2020, 07:34:00 AM »
I am not the friendliest of people.

I don't belief that, that is for sure.
I must say I would love to hear your story..............
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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #15 on: May 07, 2020, 10:13:24 AM »
Story: l realized my body was wrong age 4-5. Got it fixed around age 22-23.
All good ever since😃

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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #16 on: May 07, 2020, 01:31:41 PM »
Story: l realized my body was wrong age 4-5.

Didn't even think about "sex/gender" until well into University (1978?) how 'bout a CHALLENGE: I'll show mine if you yours!

"Introduction" that is . . .

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« Reply #17 on: May 07, 2020, 06:38:38 PM »
Didn't even think about "sex/gender" until well into University (1978?)
WOW! That is impressive.

 [\quote]how 'bout a CHALLENGE: I'll show mine if you yours!

"Introduction" that is . . .
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Ah...No thanks. I'll pass.

Offline Margrit

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Re: Hi everyone
« Reply #18 on: May 08, 2020, 12:26:06 AM »
Story: l realized my body was wrong age 4-5. Got it fixed around age 22-23.
All good ever since😃

Great to hear that all is good.
What is your age now?
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« Reply #19 on: May 08, 2020, 12:51:45 AM »
What is your age now?

Or... perhaps rather when was that...?

We've told a good part of what's pertinent in our stories in the conversations we've had.
Of which a good part has then been buried under mounds of unrelated words... which is one reason for my unsolicited suggestion... LOL.