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Real life Experience Male to Female / Re: where it's at now
« Last post by Maddie on Today at 04:39:08 PM »
Yesterday I drove to Milwaukee to see my doctor, get blood labs, and also sing with a band at a house. Tuesday night I was following the trouble there on the radio, as it had turned from a protest into a mob. I almost didn't go.
But I got a text message from the band guy and he said "Joey" would be there.

Joey...
Think Tony Danza with a slice of Eric Estrada. With long hair. He plays bass and sings good....

So I spent significant time on my legs, skin, and hair night before.

Went with short skirt, t-shirt, and sandals.  Not too much obvious makeup since it was hot (have not yet progressed to priming and sealing aspects of cosmetic insanity)

My doctor visit was so positive.  I'm starting to understand what's going on, and that she is willing to help me   I already recieved my lab results (!) and my blood levels are in a more normal range.
So the plan is stay same dose.  Also going to add P,

Appts and errands ran over so I arrived fashionably late for jamming. There were four other guys and me.

Joey came right up to me smiling and told me how good I looked!
I smiled, thanked him, and had to return the compliment. He looks real good for his age. Strong salt and pepper hair, cut much shorter now, with a small high ponytail. The man still has an edge. (Not your average grey hair ponytail look, ok)

We sang together easy. No discussion.
Joey took over these other guys' jam and never had to tell me one thing.
Afterwards i sat myself down next to him on the couch.
He said, "I've known you longer than you realize..."
To which i told him exactly where and when we met, in a bar I was playing at, and exactly what he had said to me. 23 years ago. He smiled and said "you remember!"

It was a fun interaction.  He's more than 20 years my senior, lives a hundred miles from me, and has no car.
Handsome talented man though.  Flashes of anger.  I like him.

To wrap it up this critical supernews report- , I didn't longer too long, and made a run for the county line after curfew.
What a rebel ;)
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I'm glad we agree that what's going on is despicable. What strikes me is how the media at least to me seems to broadcast information in a way that at least to me seems designed to further polarize people and exasperate the situation. To provoke and heighten emotions rather than smoothe them.

And... I actually wonder whether much of the strife we see in the world is due to wrongs and sorrow that occurred long ago not being allowed to disappear into the archives of history, but instead being dug up and recited daily as if they were a current issue.
Those who fail to learn from history are bound to repeat it.

We hear about black reparations all the time but nothing is said about the 100,000s of people who gave their life to win freedom for the slaves. There is currently an attempt to erase that history by removing southern symbols from the public view but wouldn't it be better to have them in view so we can understand and discuss the good and the bad?  Germany attempted to erase the history of the Nazi party only to see it reappear. WW1 was started because of the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand of Austria-Hungary. We remember WW! but who remembers anything about the Archduke? The Irish and English had a battle that went on for centuries. The record holder is Israel who seems to be fighting everybody in the middle east and has had to do so for thousands of years.

Sometimes it seems like people would rather fight than live in peace and prosperity. I may know what people do but don't ask me to explain why. I don't like to fight but I will do so if it's the right thing to do. That's a good deal different than fighting over something because you want it and by winning the fight, you can take it.
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First of all, I would like to say thanks to the staff for allowing this discussion to run its course even as things got a little bit pissy. You have no idea how refreshing that is or how much it is appreciated. We are mostly intelligent adults and we will work this out or take our ball and go home?

Agreed... Thank you, Dena...

zirconia, thank you for your efforts at making peace.

And thank you for your response...٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

I'm glad we agree that what's going on is despicable. What strikes me is how the media at least to me seems to broadcast information in a way that at least to me seems designed to further polarize people and exasperate the situation. To provoke and heighten emotions rather than smoothe them.

And... I actually wonder whether much of the strife we see in the world is due to wrongs and sorrow that occurred long ago not being allowed to disappear into the archives of history, but instead being dug up and recited daily as if they were a current issue.

Yes. Watching news feels nauseating. Most of it appears to be pablum, propaganda, provocation or a combination thereof. I really wish that logic would be a required school subject... but I guess that would be asking too much.

Anyway... I try hard to take a step back and a deep breath before reacting to anything I see. And consider whether there's anything I can do about it. And usually there isn't... LOL... so I once again turn to and concentrate on what I can and need to do.

I'd like to hear your manifesto some time... perhaps on another thread? It does sound quite intriguing. Where the internet is concerned... oh well... That discussion may also belong on a different thread. All in good time...

Note: sorry for my rambling long-windedness and the nearly psychotic diatribe. It's 10:30 in the morning, I've been up since yesterday afternoon, worked all night and haven't been to bed yet. I think I'll do that now before I say anything else stupid.

This is a rant thread after all? LOL. I hope you slept well and are rested now...

Edit: Clarity. Removed some information irrelevant to the general public from the view of curious eyes.
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General Topics / Re: Site issues?
« Last post by Christine on Yesterday at 08:05:44 PM »
Hi Dena Dear,                          03 June 2020

Thank you Dear for all you do for so many. You are the Driving force here and in my life as well. I thank You for being my Partner here and in real life.

I Love You With All My Heart and Soul. Your Forever Faithful and Grateful Christine
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General Topics / Re: Site issues?
« Last post by Dena on Yesterday at 07:15:05 PM »
Another day of narrowing down the problem and we received a follow up call from support. We gave them a link to the Simple machines thread we started on the problem. The conclusion was a module called mod_security was the issue. It's not installed on all systems and it's supposed to prevent something called SQL injection from happening. In this case it was causing SQL injection resulting in the failure. The information was then passed to an administrator for the servers. It turns out they were somewhat familiar with the problem and were able add a white list entry that prevents the server from acting on the data.

The good news is you may now post "select from" and not have the issue. If you get any more 500 errors, keep the data and let us know. Once we isolate the problem, the fix is quick and easy.

On the plus side, now the problem is isolate and corrected, I don't have to keep the system static and I can install more mods that I have delayed installing or removed while chasing this problem. Tapatalk is one that I suspect some desire and the mod that fetches video links and makes the playable in the thread are probably the two most noticeable ones.
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Policies and Site Information / Re: TEST POST
« Last post by Christine on Yesterday at 06:39:11 PM »
Hi Folks,                       04 June 2020      1501 MST (Arizona Time)

The Server Error, aka 500 Error, was on the host side. Thanks to Dena's technical abilities and perseverance, it is fixed.

Thank You Dear. I Love You,

Christine
 
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First of all, I would like to say thanks to the staff for allowing this discussion to run its course even as things got a little bit pissy. You have no idea how refreshing that is or how much it is appreciated. We are mostly intelligent adults and we will work this out or take our ball and go home?

zirconia, thank you for your efforts at making peace.

I've made comments that would be better left unsaid but this is a rant thread and there’s obviously things we've needed to get off our chests. Not that the whole world hasn't gone a bit crazy with the whole COVID-19 debacle but this country has been a powder keg waiting to happen long before that. Lock people in their homes, close the schools and put 50 million people on unemployment then show them an example of authoritarian police brutality recorded from twelve different angles against a black man no less and you have about all it takes to light the fuse.

Put a divisive, arrogant, misogynous pompous reality TV star blowhard in the back pocket of religious fundamentalists, i.e. the Xtian Taliban and corporations and Wall Street at the wheel along with the widening gap between the haves and the have nots and our nation has become polarized and divided with lines drawn sharply along party lines that’s become like the heated rivalry between fervent football fans and their favorite team in our sports obsessed competitive culture. The rhetoric and whatever cause célèbre one party supports or doesn’t has become just like a team sport in dummied down America and just as a sidenote, trans issues and people have become pawns in this game of political football like never before. Both parties can leave their g*ddamn politics out of our medical condition and leave that up to the experts and doctors. [/minirant]

All of us can agree that violence, rioting and looting are despicable acts and we feel nothing but contempt for those bad actors but we shouldn’t discount the reasons people are mad and protesting in the first place. Without living in this country and really knowing, there’s always been an undercurrent of systemic racism, classism and oppression that has existed much much longer than I’ve been alive that you might not really understand from your nightly newsfeed? Journalism in broadcast media and in media in general died a long time ago replaced by blatantly biased infotainment of snippets and sound bytes and 280 character tweets so I would tend to believe less than half of what you hear or see. I can't watch a minute of TV "news". It makes me ill.

When the little guy feels an injustice, he’s going to push back and we’re no less tribal creatures today than when we were living in caves. Evolution has bred into us feeling a certain kind of way about those not in our tribe or not in our religion or those with different ethnicity and cultures. Fortunately in a polite and civilized society we learn to overcome our primal instincts and behave in a way that’s beneficial to all whether that is a result of changes in society itself or by force of law but in our primal reptilian brain, these underlying issues and hidden hierarchies still simmer. Being a warrior species is in our genes. No wonder the aliens from planet Reptar don’t drop in and say howdy. This is a bad neighborhood and I wouldn’t come here either.

Racial minorities and often non-Christian minorities have never gotten a fair shake in the land of the white man. Look at how we devastated native populations as part of our very roots then add in the whole slavery thing and these peoples had the slate tipped against them from the start. It’s no wonder they’re angry in an era with militarized fascist police forces leaning on their necks and filling their prisons with incarceration rates highest per-capita in the world with nearly 70% of the incarcerated either black, Hispanic or indigenous folks. I’d be pissed off too (but not enough to loot and burn)

I was around and in a major metropolitan urban inner-city school during desegregation and forced busing and some folks were none too happy what was going on and that the whole thing was “shoved down their throats” made it even more egregious. This racial/cultural divide may have simmered at times but to my knowledge, it has always been ready to boil.

Throw in COVID and a hammered economy, at least as far as the little guy/average Joe is concerned, divisive politicians with opposing platforms and the team sport mentality of rah rah for our side and things get pretty damned ugly. Battle lines have been drawn between the red and the blue, between new factions and old. The left uses their bullets and the right uses theirs and neither will stop until one side is shot down and loses. It’s pathetic and the country and the people suffer and end up the losers in this identity driven need to win at all costs.

For now, I’ll spare the world my manifesto about the great age of information. I believe that in 200 years from now, if we haven’t raped the planet’s resources dry, wiped ourselves out by then or been overtaken by our new alien overlords, connectivity will be seen as one of the biggest shifts in humanity and society’s world history akin to how we now view the great industrial revolution. I’m also convinced this is the next step in our biological evolution as a species but that’s not the point I’m trying to make. (and kind of a weird personal theory of mine anyway re: transhumanism)

IMO, one of the reasons we are so divided and polarized and more tribal-ized than ever is because we have a new tool in the shed i.e. The Internet that like a kid with a new toy, we haven’t learned to properly use yet without setting the shed ablaze or cutting off a finger or two. I think it may take another fifty years before we realize the beast that’s been unleashed and learn how to not let it tear us apart?

Put me down as a victim of this tsunami. I’ve been as strongly entrenched and reinforced in my opinions, positions and attitudes and have become as polarized as anyone and I’m obviously as much about finger pointing as the next person. Yay!  :-[

Note: sorry for my rambling long-windedness and the nearly psychotic diatribe. It's 10:30 in the morning, I've been up since yesterday afternoon, worked all night and haven't been to bed yet. I think I'll do that now before I say anything else stupid.
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Sorry... I dislike strife.
And I really hope this won't make it worse.
And I don't have much time to think about what I'd like to say. I only hope I can still make myself understood.

Complete... on rereading the post I guess there's room for misinterpretation especially if feelings between you two have been high.


Elisabeth... to me it would seem the single point Complete definitely made was that you're pretty. And that you know it. And... that you truly are is easy to tell even from the glimpses you've shown us.

As for the rest of the things you said about your friend... well, you've been open about the possibility of liking girls. And you've mentioned your car before—no-one who is rolling in money would keep driving something totaled, as Complete also must know. From your story it's clear to everyone you couldn't have ever been a cheerleader. And... that despite all odds you did make it. And have lived what you've described as an ordinary life. That in itself is an unbelievable achievement. It must not have been pure luck, could it?

So Complete logically couldn't have been referring to those other things... could she? Oh, except that you're white, of course.


I think this whole flare-up started from blacks and whites and classes and discrimination, and violence and the resulting riots. Right?

Now, I know nothing about classes or races or things like that from an American viewpoint. Except that at the American school I attended when little they stressed that blacks must not be discriminated against so insistently that I for the first time in my life started to see skin color as a differentiating factor. LOL. Until then it was irrelevant to me.

And that when asked to take care of an all black American band touring here I was treated and made feel like I wrote about here. Sure... I never was able to quite blend in. But when working I did always try to be at least... unremarkable, I guess. And white and mixed crews never targeted me like that. Nor have blacks from Africa.

So... maybe I have seen/experienced a bit of something from both sides after all? If so, something does seem wrong. What it is I have no idea. Nor how to fix it. But please... what does getting upset help? I don't think anyone is here to prosyletize. Or to try to convert others to their own viewpoint.


Frankly... these days all news makes me cringe because it all seems so obviously biased. Scripted. Rehearsed. Clownish, even. I lost my trust in the media when invited to interpret after the twin tower incident and the staff tried to coerce me to twist the interviewees' words to fit the predetermined story. I refused to lie—not one of them had a bad word against muslims. So they fetched someone else, sent me to write a letter to the king of Jordan instead, and in the morning news those interviewees DID say they were terrified of their islamic neighbors. As the narrative required...

I've not since been asked to work with them even once. Or any news station, in fact. Maybe they have a blacklist.... or maybe I'm just a bit too paranoid... LOL.


Anyway. That really changed my perspective. I may of course be wrong. But after that I did come to think keeping an open mind is not a bad thing to do. And that it can help us make unbiased decisions and more easily see through deceit and subterfuge. No matter who is behind it.

If it's within my power to right a wrong I hope I have the strength to do it. But most things aren't. And getting upset about them serves only as a distraction from what I do most  need to concentrate on right now.

But... I see I'm starting to ramble. Sorry.


Elisabeth told us she's friends with someone whose views she can't at all agree with. Can we try?
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Policies and Site Information / Re: TEST POST
« Last post by Christine on June 02, 2020, 10:32:04 PM »
Hi @Complete,                  02 June 2020

Thank you dear, we appreciate your kind comments. You are a very real asset to your site.

As soon as the problem is totally resolved, we'll fix your post and move it to a place of honor.

Please take care, stay safe and Healthy.

Best Always, Love

Dena and Christine
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Gee..sorry.. I didn't think you were so fragile...

There you go again with attempts to belittle and be dismissive of others with your facetious and sarcastic communication style. I think the only thing we have in common is both having had sex changes in the 1970s and at least I've been very forthcoming and open about that and how I got there which you often color with sometimes vague analogy and metaphor when talking about your life.

Fragile? Like hell and you should know me well enough to know I don't roll over and play dead when pushed, dismissed or bullied. Who's the fragile one here that has to snipe at others from your lofty perch for who knows what reason?

I'm off to work onsite in another city for the rest of the night. Please think carefully about coming at me and your choice of words.

Thanks.
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